Alison you have been open and honest and they are great qualities. Going through this is so hard , especially when you are putting in so much effort with control and restraint. The detachment is the hardest thing in the world but it will come if your H continues to treat you badly and neglect you .
How are you going to focus on yourself and away from H ? Get on the GAL with your friends, family and kids . A stand up comedy show ? A day out at the races ? Theme park ? I feel you deserve better and maybe if H sees you being the strong, fun loving girl who people love to be around and is soaring in life he may be drawn to you . I expect it won’t happen overnight and will be months at least if it is going to happen , but what is the alternative? You can do it , be a success story
