Hey all, thank you for everything.

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The state I am in, is notoriously known as a woman's state. The county I am in, is even worse.

For instance, before our divorce a few years ago. There was a couple that was divorcing, the judge just needed to sign off on it. Everything was decided before hand, mediation and lawyers. The kids would live with the Dad during the week and every other weekend, the mom would have them every other weekend and a few hours during the week after school.

During the trial, the judge discussed a domestic abuse situation against the husband, that had happened several years before hand. It was dropped, the wife was an admitted alcoholic and actually got in trouble for filing false police reports. At the time of the trial, she was living in a 1/2 way house (at least for another 6 months) due to multiple DUI's and other drinking offenses. Hence the reason she had limited custody of the kids, because of her track record, sobriety was a fight. The Dad kept the house, bought her out, etc. The judge then decided, that obviously the Dad did something to deserve the Mom calling the cops years ago and that the judge didn't feel he was punished enough. He then decided that the Dad now will have supervised visit's only, on Saturday's with the kids at his cost (to pay the supervisor for being there) and the kids will live with the Mom full-time. Her lawyer argued that she couldn't have the kids full time due to living in the 1/2 way house and what not. The judge just waived it off and said "She can figure it out..." Both lawyers went back to the judge and he yelled at them, claiming that his decision was final and that is all there is to it. He then threatened the husband saying "if your counsel keeps it up, I will take away YOUR house and give it to HER! So then YOU will have to find a place to live!" Never mind that the title of the home was in his name, that he had already bought her out, that he had a mortgage on it in his name, the judge didn't care.

That was the same judge that heard my case. Even though my ex provided absolutely nothing as evidence against me, the judge still ruled against me. She didn't have to answer any questioning, she didn't have to explain any of her actions, it was all on me dancing the gauntlet with my lawyer. I followed everything in our divorce decree to a "T", she picked and chose what she wanted to follow. Anytime my lawyer pointed out her lies, the judge would look at us and say "Well, why would she lie about that? What is your reasoning to think that?" We would submit proof and he would glance at it and say "That still didn't answer my question! Why would SHE lie to ME?" Finally my lawyer snapped and said "Your honor, no disrespect, but you are asking us why she lied, why not ask her? She is right there?" The judge freaked out on him, threatened to hold him for 30 days in contempt and that was that.