You are doing great G. Your last few posts have been less about her and more about you and how you are moving forward. That's a big change and you should be proud.
Originally Posted by gzebatas
Then she created a story of me, stringing 5-6 events where I dropped the ball (forgot valentines day once etc) and she is sticking to it.
They all do this. We all do this. We have an idea in our head of how things were and how people are. These don't always have much to do with reality and more to do with what we are feeling. Then we cherry pick bits and pieces of our past to validate how we feel. When I was in the throes of things, I remembered only the good. He remembered only the bad. The same memories. The same experiences. Different interpretations. Now, I see our marriage for what it was. Good and bad. So does he.
Originally Posted by gzebatas
It justified her affair I guess
The affair was a symptom of her unhappiness. People who are happy in their marriages do not have affairs. Why she was unhappy is a different conversation. Could be childhood trauma. Could be depression. Could be narcissism. Could be you. Could be that two good people just drifted apart. Doesn't matter. When you are ready to look at your marriage objectively and own the things you did that contributed to the BD, then you can 180 on those things and become a better you. Leave her to her. She might do the work and become a better her. Then again, she might not. Not your problem anymore.
The moment with your boy sounds lovely. I'd like you to reframe it though.
Originally Posted by gzebatas
My boy ran passed his mother and gramma, having spotted me and rushed to hug me. He broke away from them and had his eyes fixed on me. I needed that vote of approval today.I am crying even as I write this. What a positive note for my day!!
What made that moment beautiful was the interaction between your boy and you. It had nothing to do with your W and her mom.
