Oh gosh, 97Hope - 'pushover or sledgehammer' has really, really hit home for me. I can identify with that so well. It gave me the chills.
I think I've either rolled over, or sledgehammered my H so much that there's been very little honesty from me. I've done things I didn't want to do, or hammered him into doing things I wanted to do, that there's been no room for him to be honest to me.
I sometimes think of it as pushing or pulling. We pull people towards us or we push them away. Or we let them pull or push us. I am working on trying to be still and seeing where my H is when he is still, and seeing where that leaves us.
