Moving on to the Brightside Part 27

[Dawn70]

Yeah, maybe but I am ok with it. She just needs to remember though that I did not pry into her personal life or pepper her with questions about her BF. I told her that I trusted she would not bring someone into our daughters lives that would not be a positive influence.

Ok, so you wanted her to say something but now you don't want her to say too much? I'm confused. LOL But then again what is new? I would think (or maybe I should say hope) that both of you want what is best for your kids and you are going to trust the other's judgment in making that happen moving forward. I don't see a reason for either of you to be asking a whole lot of questions or delving into the other's personal relationships unless something comes up that is detrimental to the kids and needs to be addressed. I think it confuses me why you and Andrew and some others seem so intent on worrying about what XW thinks or feels or says or whatever. But then again, my situation was different and our kids were adults and when my XH walked away there was no reason for further communication so I guess my experience is just different from yours. I must say, I got lucky with mine.

Well the Dr and I are going to meet each other's kids on Saturday. That would make it a little over 5 months. I know it's not 6 months but the Dr. has never waivered from who she has been then entire time so I feel very comfortable with it. Outside of a magic number of 6 months I am not sure what another 3 weeks or so is going to tell me about her. Granted we have not had an argument yet but I am not going to put everything on hold until that happens. Her and I have just been very easy. No drama, no one circulating in the background, no tracking who texts who first, or who initiates what, it's just been very easy.

While I understand why people were saying wait a minimum of 6 months, but I don't think that is a "magic number". As I say ALL the time, you have to do what works for you. If you are ready and she is ready, then proceed. Y'all know each other and your kids better than any of us, so 6 months is really just a suggestion, not something set in stone or proven through any actual research. Again, I understand why people said that, but my point is, you have to listen to advice but temper it with what works best for you, knowing all the ins and outs of the situation. I think it is great you are meeting kids. I understand the pressure both ways and hopefully y'all will navigate that ok. In some ways, that seems to make it somewhat more real, too, I would think, because that is the one part of your lives you haven't shared yet. Good luck with it all. I hope everyone gets along well.