Attracting the WW back ?

[gzabetas]

Thanks unchien and AS, I needed to hear that.

Cant tell if its narcissism, will look into it. I know the meaning of the greek word to fall in love with ones image.
Dont know the details. Alot of what you quoted AS sounds true.

She was definitely not like this before. Whatever crack occurred in her psyche (all that childhood drama - parents neglect) that resurfaced when she found out about her father's second family, took about a year inside her to brew and exploded at me (the new father figure, we have 20 years age diff.)

Then she created a story of me, stringing 5-6 events where I dropped the ball (forgot valentines day once etc) and she is sticking to it. It justified her affair I guess.

I love a quote I read here on this forum once. "Behind all their actions is Depression, a long standing one. Always is"

So I could see her cracking pre- BD. She was claiming loss of identity. Making raving accusations that she was gonna f*k us all (her parents as well). Night cries, migraines. She probably still has them.
Her inability to cope with all this, causes her to lash out at me.

So I have a cracked ex-wife, going out there as a free agent spewing untruths about me.


I am closing with a happy note for all fathers left behind spouses by their MLC/WAW wives.

Today at our 4 year old son's school play, the ex and her mother (in loud colors and makeup) where in the first row clapping for my boy.
I was all the way in the back to not interact with them.
When the children finished and received their gift bag for the summer, all kids returned to their parents.

My boy ran passed his mother and gramma, having spotted me and rushed to hug me.
He broke away from them and had his eyes fixed on me. I needed that vote of approval today.
I am crying even as I write this. What a positive note for my day!!