RR - I haven't read your whole sitch, but from what I gather, patience has been your thing. I do believe using patience as a prudent method. None of us here know your W and were there when you had that conversation. So, it seems to me that you're taking a very selective interpretation of what she meant by wanting to live her life freely. If she could do that within the marriage, she would've explained, but she didn't have an answer for that. I think LH's interpretation is closer to the truth, if not the actual truth. Just because she hasn't acted out on it yet, doesn't mean that it is not on her mind and her eventual plan.
Also, is the lack of sex the only issue? Are you otherwise happy with the relationship and her? What are you doing for yourself in this self-imposed limbo and timeline? If you want her stance to change towards you, what are you doing to improve yourself and make 'you' the attractive option? I am not trying to say that it all rests on you, but if you want to cultivate desire on her part, you also need to change the script up.
