GZ, sounds like she's a narcissist. When she's asking you to do things it's just a form of control for her. Crucifying you afterwards is also a form of control, it's her telling you that you have no value, that she doesn't care about your help and that she's done with you again. If you don't know much about narcissism then please do some research, it'll help you recognize her patterns so you can avoid falling into the same old traps she lays.
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Her condition is such that she sees anyone who giver her any attention as a weakling and she punishes them.
Narcissists are unable to feel empathy towards others because everything is all about themselves.
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Then she needed help with her resume for her new job. No one could edit her PDF version. I am kinda the IT genius in my small town, so I help her. No thank you, later that night she cursed at me.
This should be obvious, but you've got to quit helping her. If she asks for your help then politely decline. If she asks why then tell her like unchien said that you are done being insulted every time you help her and you will no longer tolerate it. Expect denial or even ranting, just tell her the conversation is over and walk away or hang up or quit replying to texts.
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Its as if she can only raise her value/self-esteem by diminishing me.
Emotional Invalidation and Coercion
Although narcissists and gaslighters can be (but are not always) physically abusive, for the majority of their victims, emotional suffering is where the damage is most painfully felt. Both narcissists and gaslighters enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions in order to feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They habitually invalidate others’ thoughts, feelings, and priorities, showing little remorse for causing people in their lives pain. They often blame their victims for having caused their own victimization (“You wouldn’t get yelled at if you weren’t so stupid!”).
In addition, many narcissists and gaslighters have unpredictable mood swings and are prone to emotional drama — you never know what might displease them and set them off. They become upset at any signs of independence and self-affirmation (“Who do you think you are!?”). They turn agitated if you disagree with their views or fail to meet their expectations. As mentioned earlier, they are sensitive to criticism, but quick to judge others. By keeping you down and making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel more reassured about themselves.
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Sure she will provoke some kind of fight to make me look like an A*ole (as the tune by Beck goes)
