RR, sorry to hear this development. At least now you know and can react accordingly. I am with you, a sexless marriage would be a no-go for me barring some kind of physical handicap that prevented it. I mean we all have sexual needs but that's not the real issue. A wife that doesn't -want- to have sex with her husband is checked out of the M and likely just staying in it out of some sense of obligation to kids or something. So where are you thinking you will go from here?