Alison, you've given him every opportunity and I admire and respect you for that. But I am with Ginger on this, you're locked in a repeating pattern. He treats you like crap, you pull back, he starts reaching out and offering the olive branch, you crack open the door and he treats you like crap again, repeat. If this talk Friday goes the least bit sideways then I hope you will consider telling him you need some period of time away from him with zero R discussions of any kind like Ginger said. I would suggest at least 6 months. You both go your separate ways and have as little to do with each other as possible. Maybe if he realizes he really has lost you then he will consider actually changing his abusive ways, but until then I don't think he will.
