Coffee date! It's not really a date, it's a "coffee meet". Low key way to find out if the person is a creep or totally not what you thought or if they are actually dateable.
(All that being said, I did once drive 11 hours for a first date with a guy I had been talking to on the internet for 3 months and it worked out ok - as in, we dated for almost a year until his old high school girlfriend found him, and we've remained friends ever since.)
But I've definitely "met" people online who sounded good but were definitely not for me once we met in person so keep that first meet low key, not a full-fledged date.
