I feel so many things today. Nervous, anxious, neutral, on alert, exausted, worried, pro-active and as a failure. . I am all over the place.
2 days ago, D16 came home badly messed up on drugs. We got into a convo and i took her phone away for a week Within 5 min of her going to bed, she was passed out.
Through my phone, i messaged her bf to know what they had taken. Without his knowledge, he was texting me and D16 ( me again ). He said weeds.. ( I know it was way more then that ).
We messaged back and forth ALL night. In the morning, through D18' s phone ( because i have no way of contacting ex-h), i sent him copies of our conversation. He responded right away to contact OPP and report him . D16 was already at school and me at work. Suddenly, i got a call from the principal letting me know D16 had just been picked-up by her father and asked if it was ok. ( The principale is an old co-worker of mine back when i worked at the elementary. She knows our history). In a hard beat, i answer: YES!! Oh, thank God! She said: i did not know if it was ok now and asked your D16 if she wanted to call you but she said she did not have her phone. I responded: I have her phone! She clued in that something was going on. I thank her for the call and told her i would be in soon to explain.
Ex-h had a long talk with D16 and brought her to the station. I will not give details. Investigation is in process.
When he brought her back, i asked if he could take her because i do not know gow to deal with this. She hates me right now and she will not listen to anything i say. She will try to contact her bf and it will get nowhere but worse. He accepted. I said i would do all the travelling to get her to school for the last 2 weeks and also for work. ( i do her work schedule and can keep my eyes on her while she still has a little bit of normality).
I gave ex-h D16' s phone. He looked at it last night and has more digging to do. What he found is outrageous. He said he could put her bf in jail for many, many years..
She can NOT HAVE any contact with him. Will charges be laid? It will be up to ex-h and D16. This is where i feel like a failure. I should have suppervised her phone. I trusted in her and forgot that teens often have a side life parents know supperficially.
There will be much more to this but for now, i have to drive D16 to the meething point. I' m sad now! T
