Attracting the WW back ?

[gzabetas]

I feel frustrated though as if I feel none of my posts have captured what has been happening lately.

Here is the vicious cycle that I am caught in.

1. I am distant doing my own thing, then our kid needs to be handed off between us and we interact.
2. She shows me some sign of weakness or something she needs help with, usually related to the kid.
3. I come in to save the day.
4 And she crucifies me for it.
rinse and repeat


Thats it in a nutshell. I have no idea how to cope with that.

Her condition is such that she sees anyone who giver her any attention as a weakling and she punishes them.
Its twisted.

Its like that scene from Ghostbusters with Gozer the Gagarian.

"You showed me kindness, Now Die !!!"

I was a distant loner last week and she was respecting me. Then she needed help with her resume for her new job.
No one could edit her PDF version. I am kinda the IT genius in my small town, so I help her.
No thank you, later that night she cursed at me.

A few days ago, they couldnt set up her home internet - so I drew her a network diagram to work on her own showing where all the cables went. The next morning she bad mouths me.

Today she had nowhere to leave our son and it was her day with him. I step up.
When I returned him home, she made this dismissive hand gesture like "Now beat it, scram"
WTF

Its as if she can only raise her value/self-esteem by diminishing me.

I know its her twisted game and I should not play it. But I dont want to give her the satisfaciton


Tomorrow our son is in a school play, We will bump into each other.
God knows what surprise awaits me.
Sure she will provoke some kind of fight to make me look like an A*ole (as the tune by Beck goes)