My IC says I should tell XW that in person. I don't expect XW to have any favorable reaction to it (most likely it'll be anger). I just feel like it's something I need to free myself from. On the other had, would this be giving her narcissistic supply?
I probably wouldn't do this right now when she is all riled up. Maybe later when things have cooled. But don't expect a positive reaction from it. And be careful it doesn't give her the impression you are wanting to get back together with her.
I'm sorry about your son, it's so difficult when our children suffer from depression. There are many causes and this may be situational, but don't forget that exercise, sunshine and healthy whole foods play a role in recovering as well.
