Complex WW and/or MLC #3

[P_Jam]

Hi Sandi,
It feels passive aggressive because I have to 'pull away' which is not what I've been doing. But again, it is not to try and get her to want me more. Its more about still letting her feel some loss. for the past 1.5 weeks she has had her cake and been able to eat it too. Which was okay with me exactly what I was willing to do but as we progressed through this time and had the talks/letters I still felt like I was the only one 'giving' - with the exception of her initial break-down which went south once she tried to hide/not tell the full truth. I'm pulling away for me. Cause I do not want to slide into a situation where we are acting like reconciliation but my terms and conditions are not being met.

Update from 5mins ago: As I said above.. I've started to pull away a little. Saw her on Sunday to exchange kids as it was Papa's birthday so I allowed her to take the kids for a few hours that day. She initiated 2 hugs (when when she arrived and one when she left) I hugged back but in a slightly more distant manner that the last 2 weeks. I did not pull her in and make it deeper. I just hugged smiled and moved one. She then texted on monday "Happy Monday!!" I just replied "Thank you, I hope you're having a great one" - then no other texts. I think she was reaching out hoping for some conversation.

Now the big news! This morning I get this text:

W: "Good Morning! Can I ask you a question?"

M: "Well this doesn't sound good if you have to ask. You can ask but I'm kinda at a place where I'm tired of being the only one willing to give answers. So I'm not going to guarantee that I will answer."

W: "Actually never mind. Are you seeing your IC today? If he's still willing to see me at the stage you guys are at will you see if he's open on Thursday to see me?

Me: "Yes! okay I will ask. That is not what I expected to hear from you. Are you sure that you don't want to ask me the question"

W: "No, I'll trust the answer is no . I love you PJ"

M: " Ok. I love you too. I hope you are okay. Have a great day I will email to get you scheduled"


So this was a bit of a good surprise this morning - No??