Curious if things are getting closer to an end. Lately my wife has been engaging in conversation. Has been engaged with kids, household things. Has been acting way more like herself. She texts me a lot more about kid stuff, but seems like she is reaching out. She messaged me about children and things we need to do to better raise them, used language like "us" in the text. She just messaged me asking what I wanted for father's day. I feel like she is still avoiding her issues but hopefully the therapist is helping her work through this. She is still distant at home but so I am. Again it is frustrating going about life wanting so badly to say "Hey, what about us? Remember 20 years together?" I realize the stuff she has done and has said is all related to MLC, but at some point we need to acknowledge this and move forward. It is so hard to heal, when someone tells you they never loved you and would rather be apart to find themselves and experience other relationships, but still carry on day to day activities as if nothing is wrong. I know I know, detach, work on myself, don't focus on her. Way easier said then done.
Another positive is that the twice divorced women she has been talking to has revealed herself as more crazy, she told my wife she wants to learn spanish and become a flight attendant. This women has major issues, she runs away from everything. She is the one that has told my wife that seeking your own happiness is key and divorcing is just a step forward, kids will be fine etc. My wife is recognizing that this women is crazy. Interesting thing is that this women is the same person that got my wife in trouble as a teenager where the real issues started.
Fingers crossed things are moving in the right direction. I am remaining patient. Do Not Engage, Refrain, Patience, Let Go,
