RR, I like it. I think you are headed toward R, and this is a topic that needs to be broached. The key is to NOT react negatively if she isn't ready yet. Otherwise she will feel pressure and feel like that is all you care about. I know my W reacts much better to my initiation if it is a "fine if we do, fine if we don't", The big difference now is that she knows that saying "not right now" will not result in my "punishing" her. A much better dynamic, and the yeses are much more frequent than the nos!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
