Things are mostly the same. W seems to enjoy time together. D16 is off to the beach for camp and D20 is coming home for a short stay and then back to college.
We have reached the anniversary of No Sex. 6/11/18 I tried to initiate and when she rejected. I said that I didn't want to pressure her if she didn't want it.
So, with things going swell, I decided 2 things: * fortune favors the bold * The man controls the sex
After days of deliberation, I decided to make a move. I toggled between just slipping up behind her when the time seemed appropriate (few if any words) and flat out asking. Both have pluses and minuses. Either one would require that I prepare for the worse to avoid a fight.
We have been watching episodes of Mad Men lately and sexually has been a reoccurring subject. So there's that.
So, this morning I decided that an arm's length correspondence was a low-pressure way to make a move and buffer responses. I know this seems weak but you have to know my W.
M: Seeing that it has been a year since we had any sexual contact, I have been thinking about where if anywhere this is going. Any thought?
W: I'm thinking that this is not a conversation to be had by text or walking out the door. If you'd like to set aside some time in the evening, that will work better.
M: Fair enough. I realize text may not be the best but sometimes we do better when we don't react to each other. As for timing, I just felt like saying something and didn't really expect you to respond immediately.
Then before leaving for the office, W came into my room and said she was leaving for the day. We said our pleasantries and confirmed dinner plans. No attitude or underlying messages. I added that I would like to have that conversation tonight and she said we can.
So what does this all mean?
Well, for one, W's response was a major improvement from her past. Taking a non-belligerent approach, one that seems to take my feelings into consideration is a big step forward. I realize it could also signal indifference.
Am I temp-taking? Perhaps, but limbo land can't continue indefinitely.
News at 11 pm.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
