Yes of course the kids know he's not been living here, but I suppose it has been confusing to them because we've met up once a week and spent time together. So everyone is confused really. The key thing, who knows. I did say the kids both have keys so can let him in. They did go to his flat quite a lot the first few months but then ds2 refused to go saying it was boring and hard work getting there and ds1 got a job involving an early start Saturday so neither of them have been there for months. Perhaps he fears he won't see them at all if he doesn't come here. He might be right.
I think he will push for D if we meet tonight. He might be too scared to D and he definitely doesn't want to be married right now, but his pride will make him make D noises I think, if not actual movements towards D. I did say that I wasn't giving ultimatums or anything now but that I was unhappy about him disrespecting me. Maybe I was a bit too conciliatory.
