Hey LH, IHC and Neffer thanks for the replies, you guys are absolutely correct about this “family” trip to Disneyland being cake eating. I’ve done well so far about not doing family things with wife but this is a big fck up obviously. The trip was planned pretty last minute and I agreed to go after not enough thought and without talking to you guys on here unfortunately. I’ve already bought my hotel room and plane ticket so I’m going to be going haha. I am looking forward to being there with my Son but yeah I should have just taken him by myself some other time.
So I guess I will just try to enjoy myself on this sort of vacation haha. I plan on just focusing on my Son and not thinking too much about interactions with W. I know you guys are really against me going but if anyone has some pointers on dealing with my W during this cake eating trip it would be appreciated. Obviously I’m going to treat her like an amusement park worker and be friendly but brief.
IHC that’s so hypocritical of her to say it’s good your S is so young he won’t remember the state of your relationship but she still wants him to experience you guys acting as a family haha. It makes no sense. If she actually wanted son to have memories of you all as a family maybe she should have stuck around and worked through the problems. It just shows how up and down they can be. Almost seems like they have no clue what they want and there is no logic to their thought process.
Other than that GAL is going well. Still working our a lot. Gained to my weight goal that I have struggled reaching for the past two years. It’s interesting that this BD event that shakes up our lives can help us to improve in many other areas of our lives. Gotta look for the silver lining in this all. Making a lot of new friends and most days I’m feeling really good about things. Sure there’s a day here and there where I am angry/sad but they are becoming far less frequent.
Just want to briefly thank everyone on this forum. I was miserable around BD and if I hadn’t found this forum and DB, I have no doubt I would be far worse off than I am today. This forum is such a great resource to see that we are not alone and we are not the only ones going through this. Everything will be okay, R or not.
