So so new to this :(

[peacetoday]

It would not help to say anything to him and may make it worse

I know it hurts and the only way to get through it is to go through it
the pain , the feelings, the ups and downs, the confusion ect..

we go through a healing process with 5 stages-- denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance--
sometimes we flow in and out of these stages and back again
By having some awareness, you may see yourself in a stage


Your kids will go through their pain and healing as well-
again- as long as you are grounded they will probably be ok
therapy is helpful for them as well if they are willing-