Growing Pains(LB55 thread 4)

[LB55]

ok thanks all, I understand, exactly what I was looking for.

Don't want to be petty or childish.

One of her complaints was that I wasn't able to take leave regularly during our marriage, so this is a bit of a test that also meets her needs. I would love to have the kids, I would take leave to make sure they are taken care of, I have the leave to take, I just don't want to take it during her prescribed time. This is her responsibility and she needs to find a way to get them taken care of. Not here to rescue her nor to set a precedent for rescuing going forward.

She sent me the bill for rental house maintenance that we had agreed to split from marital funds. Asked if I was still good with selling some mutual funds to pay for it; oh and could I address this today, as we will get late fees tomorrow. I simply replied that I am good with her selling mutual funds to pay for it. She will be in for a life lesson in waiting until the last minute when she finds out it will take 3-5 business days to get the funds from the sale. I am no longer going to be responsible for 'we need to do this'; in the past I have always done those things, she needs to understand that she is a part of 'we' when she says that. The financial penalty is worth the cost of the lesson.