My H has severe separation anxiety re the house. He hates me making changes without consulting him. He will find something wrong with everything I do - because it was not his idea/doing. And you know what, I do what I want anyway knowing that he will start some type of passive aggressiveness which is now like water of a ducks back. My home, my money. I repeat this like a mantra in my head whenever he starts.
And given all of this, he would NEVER invite friends over here when I am not here. I
Last Halloween H invited his niece and his mum over to celebrate and go to trick-or-treating with our girls. We live in a fairly posh part of our town and the pickings are better here. I wasn't bothered about them coming over but I made clear that he needs to ask and not just assume I am ok with it. I reminded him that I would not invite his mum round to his flat for tea.
Remember be careful what you tolerate.
Just change the effing locks. Say you the old ones seemed a little old and it needed doing. Don't offer to give him a set. If he demands a set, then say, sure, when you give me keys to your flat.
It's a couple of hundred pounds and it will give you peace of mind.
Alison - British curse words, whatever do you mean ?!?!?
