I already have a 14 year old and a 17 year old and they don't treat me that badly. But you have a good point, time for some boundaries. He's not a chauvinist at work but he seems to be at home. The housework thing is weird, whenever I raise the subject of domestic stuff like a bin going missing or having to put laundry out he goes strange and shuts me down, I have no idea what that's about. He has a cleaner at his flat but has to do his own laundry there and tidy up a bit. I think he thinks he's too important to think about this stuff, though cooking is ok because it's skillful. So yes, he is a chauvinist in his actions, for sure, it's been source of much discontent over the years when I was a SAHM because he had no idea how much work raising small children is, and I always felt like he belittled my efforts. Before we had kids our house was pretty messy and we sort of muddled along cooking and washing and so on, I always worked closer to home so did most of the housework even before kids. But he never complained when I was working. I'm going to ask him for my car keys back tomorrow.
