Hey everyone just doing an update, felt like a weird interaction today: So since my last post there was little text communication with my W. Her initiating and mainly related to child care. I had a great few days with my S and we had alot of fun. Ate a lot of food, my S got to watch me play hockey even though he’s too young to understand lol.
So I drove my Son to my Ws to be dropped off. She looked pretty rough and I suspect she was out drinking late last night. Not reading into it. We stood at her front door going over child info. After I gave him to her she said “son likes to do this funny thing with toy, come inside and see.” So I did. After this we kind of chit chatted and joked around a bit, it was pretty pleasant of a conversation.
W then asked, “do you want to mediate or should we give this separation more time?” (It’s been like 3 weeks lol). I said I’m not really sure but space is good right now. She replied “okay we will give it more time”.
She then asked me to come over in a few days as it is Sons birthday and he will be eating his first cake. I agreed as that is a memory I don’t want to miss. She then started a somewhat R talk. She asked many things over the course of my visit and I’ll outline a few of her questions:
Are you dating someone? Have you been on a date? Who is your girlfriend? What have you been doing? Who have you been hanging out with?
These were all spread out of the course of my maybe 20 minute visit. I acted very stoically and did not answer most of these. A couple times I simply replied “I don’t think we should discuss our personal lives right now”. In response to who I was hanging out with “some friends”.
Next she talked about next weekend, which we will spend together with Son in Disneyland. Fck me right? Haha having a lot of second thoughts about agreeing to go, but I love Disneyland and will enjoy going with my boy. W asked me if after dinner if we could let her mom watch our son while we “go on some rides and maybe have a few drinks”. This was kind of a curveball for me so I just said “that could be fun”. Wasn’t expecting her to ask to hangout 1 on 1. She the. Said something like “wow if I was your girlfriend I would feel so awkward about you going to Disneyland”. I didn’t reply but felt like she was snooping to see if I did have a girlfriend.
Before I left she started asking me favors, oh can you grab me a soda? Oh can you go get some lunch for us? I replied that I had to get going sorry. She also asked me to stay awhile longer. I said I had to go. She then asked me to hug her goodbye.
Very strange interaction today. She was acting suuuuper insecure that I was moving on or had a girlfriend or something. She mentioned that she hadn’t been hanging out with any guys and just her girlfriends. I didn’t ask about that and wether it is true or not I won’t worry about it. She also kept talking as if this separation was my idea. At one point she said something like, a week ago you mentioned working on our relationship and now you’re acting like you are over it. Which I guess is somewhat true because if she is rude I’ve set a boundary where I just leave/make her leave and end the convo. I have been reinforcing it and have had to twice in the past week. I didn’t feel any disrespect today. She was just acting super weird and insecure. And then asking me to have lunch with her today, asking me to stay awhile longer after dropping off my son, and mentioning having 1on1 time together in Disneyland is confusing to me. I guess it could be nothing more than temp checks and if so I passed so far lol. Oh well I’ll just take 1 day at a time.
