Divorce is final (thread #4 - the last?)

[KevinIn]

Hi Ovr. Yes, I am still very skeptical of relationships. At least second marriages. I do feel fortunate that I was able to fall in love and have a very long and happy marriage that resulted in two kids. It is a bummer that it did not work out. I also know that I do not need to immediately jump into another relationship. My kids are definitely my focus for the foreseeable future. I don't need to pull another person into my life right now. One lesson I've learned through watching others go through this is that jumping into another relationship is definitely not a good idea for the long-term. I have seen too many men and women think that they are healed and ready to move on, only to jump into another relationship that quickly fails. This is tough on them, and even tougher on the children.
So, for now, my kids and my work seem to take up more time than I have, so I don't need to worry about a relationship right now. not to say I don't occasionally enjoy the company of another adult. Thankfully that is easy to find when I need it.

Oh, and yes, I definitely have a major wall up between me and the ex. That is a matter of trust. I'm not sure what she is trying to do next as far as custody or anything else with my children. These days, the wall is more from being a protective father, than a bitter ex.