Sorry for the new developments you’ve got there Rooney. As AS said, it was one of the worst outcomes possible but what does it change anyway? From W perspective any harsh movement would just be more oxygen to the fire. Take your time. You need to keep DB. Many of us believe that once a DBer always a DBer from that on.
W is not living a fairy tale life anyway. I was there, inside that fog. There’s no safe place to take cover. And you can’t rescue her. She must do her own recovery. But first she must acknowledge that. So what can you control there? Only yourself. Go for that.
Take the time for yourself. Try to really enjoy the incoming days with D9 and keep working on detachment. Train your mind to avoid certain thoughts. It’s hard, I know. That’s why GAL is that very much needed. GAL with D9 and your S and then GAL when you are on your own. GAL, GAL, GAL.
Respect is the first thing to get back. Set some new boundaries regarding the broken agreement. But only if you’re into the right state of mind. You don’t confront W about the news. You just inform her that you know. So new rules must be applied.
Stand strong there Rooney. There’s nothing new in your sitch that differs from what you can find here man. But this fight is yours. An the one to fight is the old Rooney. Start getting into the new one. Amoafwl. Start moving for that goal. W must feel the loss of the renewed R. It’s gonna be her loss.
