Rooney, I like your plan to move back in and take back the mbr. But here is the thing, you should do this only when you are are calm, cool, and collected. Take time to process everything so that when you go to do that you are able to do so without anger. That you do it in a detached but firm way. When she screams, please, yells, and attacks you verbally, you listen and validate.
Other vets will have some great advice here for you. Give them time (it's the weekend) and take a few days to process everything mentally and emotionally.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
