Thanks for the advice guys. I thought I was applying some techniques out of the DR book by trying different approaches and seeing the reaction to guage progress. True I'm not ready to move on but I am able to see the posibility of life without being married so I think that's a start. I didn't see my words/actions as pursuit but can see how it might be a form of pressure. I'm just a little worried that her seeing a IC is going to accerlate things when her decisions and feelings are going to be vaildated, especially with only one side of the story.
