So so new to this :(

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HI Nyla,

I would follow your gut and heart

Our healing takes time and it does sound like you are going through the emotional stages and processes of healing
Grieving may take 1-2 years-and you may feel both sides of wanting him back and letting him go....
until finally we totally let go for good--I would trust yourself-


He is a different man for now
A man who is leaving his family to pursue a fantasy life with a new woman
A man who may be reliving a time from his past that is unresolved
A man who has no clue he may be in a crises that is fueling his choices
A man who is most likely headed toward a path of destruction unless he chooses therapy or intervention-

You are on the other hand are a strong grounded woman
one who sees and lives in reality
one who will seek inner growth for yourself and them transport that health and growth to your kids-


you can love your H from a distance and train your mind to wish him the best
maybe right now you feel anger..it is normal and have negative thoughts toward him also normal--
but you can validate your pain and thoughts, embrace it ,and keep letting it express while also training our minds to think and wish the best for everyone including H

its a discipline..and may feel weird at first but in the end it will allow us to fully detach with love and forgiveness-in time-