I am on a paid site. I agree. I won’t waste my time responding to a generic “ hi how are you”.
I went on the site a few years ago but reached out to ex bf who had a really good profile. Other then him I went on 1 date and never responded to the guys that messaged me. I shut my profile down super quick too without dating.
I think I created something in my mind based on the profile for ex bf. (In hind-site, during the early days of dating i was using him as a therapist because he was also a LBS). The reason he never reached out to me was because he figured a woman would message him if she wasn’t interested enough but figured women get a lot of messages so why pursue. He was very attentive in the beginning, but then got really lazy and passive as the relationship moved forward.
I’m kind of figuring that if a guy doesn’t bother to read my profile and pursue it’s cause he’s not interested or has tendencies forwards laziness and passiveness. I don’t want to be a pursuer anymore.
