Married couple from Scandinavia

[BenB]

A week later and I still feel no desire to stand for this marriage. Lately she is much more on her phone, when I at times se the screen, it´s always Facebook messenger. This could be nothing of course, she and her friends always have group chats. But it´s definitely a lot more lately.

I read this post from Sandi today -

For the wayward W, it begins with resentment that has never been resolved or forgiven. This is usually connected/projected to the H, and she may carry the resentment for years. In fact, it grows......and grows. The resentment turns to feelings of disrespect for him as her H and as a man. It can turn to feelings of contempt. Her feelings of emptiness, unhappiness, loneliness, and unfulfillment in her MR begins to consume her. Her attitude/mindset slowly takes on a bitter and rebellious tone. She starts showing signs of disrespect for her H and their MR. She may develop a sense of entitlement, and believe it's time for her to find whatever makes her happy. Her feelings are her priority. She does not have to engage in an affair in order to be classified as wayward, however, in most reports that we read on the board.....this is the case. The WW's behavior and character changes are usually radical, and is shocking to her family. Her H does not recognize who she has become. In the majority of stories I've read involving WW's, she will try to keep her A secret, especially from her parents. She may change friends, if old friends don't support her new choices/changes. If the WW is successful in making her H believe she's just not in love with him and wants a S/D and that there is no OM, yada, yada, yada...…….you can bet this woman has an hidden agenda. It is revealed as soon as the H is out of the picture, and she brings her new man on the scene. If she is not financially able to live on her own, she will announce they are IHS.....and she will cake eat until a better deal comes along for her. She has not intention of reconciling the MR. She'll usually tell her H she wants them to be friends, which means she wants him to be available for her to "use". She wants power over what he does.

I can see this being my W in many ways. Something is definitely up. And she certainly isn´t financially able to live on her own. I feel more and more that I´m being taken advantage of. I feel a lot less love for her at the moment. Yes, I get that this is not her and all that. But right now I feel like I´m just waiting for proof that she has a hidden agenda so I can end this.

I wish I knew if there was an OM. I don´t see how there could be but I wish there was a way I could know for sure. I still feel the urge of her moving out, OM or not, but I´d hate for her to move out and me never knowing if there was one or not.