"She's the only one who makes me feel alive" makes him sound like a lovesick teenager caught up in some sort of romeo and juliet fantasy.
Once you take the villain out of the fairy tale, the fairy tale stops being a fairy tale and becomes real life. And real life is hard. Real life when you are going through a D (even if it was one you wanted) [censored]. It doesn't get much more real then having to give up your home, split all your assets and have children who barely hide their disrespect for you.
I don't want to speculate on why he ignored you. It could be just that he is in cloud coo-coo land, unable to focus properly and just didn't see you. He could be embarrassed that he was obviously driving past the house. I don't know. It doesn't matter.
I do like that your take on it is that if something should happen it be before you've split the assets. Ever the pragmatist
