To add to Ginger's no list (because all her nos will also get a no from me too....what IS it with bathroom selfies? Ugh!):

pics with sunglasses so that I can't see your eyes

too many "bro" pics so that I can't really distinguish you from the pack (yes, by all means, have friends and hang out and have fun with them, but do not inundate your profile with a ton of frat boy wanna be pics)

negative self-talk or just negativity in general (like G was saying)

referring to yourself in the 3rd person (Maika likes this, Maika doesn't like that....yes, those profiles exist and they are the most pretentious things I have ever read)

I totally agree with what Pax said above that if a guy doesn't put that he's a father and I find out later he is, the first thing I think is that he's an absentee and/or deadbeat dad and I just can't go down that road, personally. (Not saying you are those things, but just saying that is how they come across to me personally when someone is a dad but they don't come out and say that initially.)


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
6 grandkids