OK, so he texted this morning and said he couldn't make next Wednesday evening and was there another day. I said I'd been thinking about going to our other place Tuesday but could rearrange that to Wednesday and so I could see him Tuesday evening. He offered to meet for lunch Tuesday so I could then head off to our other place from there (trains are faster from the centre) but I said that I much preferred to meet in the eveningS (didn't capitalise the S but I think he got the message!). Meeting for lunch or quick drink would be nice as a BONUS meeting, but if it''s our only meeting of the week it feels like he's giving me scraps. Having said that, he's coming home quite a lot in the next few weeks at the weekends so maybe he's feeling that as pressure (it's not, it's just I have a bunch of things lined up and the kids have some activities they need both of us there for for chauffeuring)
Anyway, I will make sure the house is clean and tidy (it already is fairly, as it has been since he left as that was apparently the reason he doesn't want to be married, sigh, but it's a 180 for me as much as for him, it's nice having an organised place, and much easier to keep clean when his crap isn't all over the place). And I hope he relaxes here and feels safe. It makes me feel sad that he has such a lack of feeling of safety about our home where we've lived for well over 20 years, but it is what it is. If we R then I'm happy to move, I think I'd like to move anyway but for the time being it's convenient for the kids and I don't want them to have more upheaval for the sake of it, bad enough that their dad has walked out on them without disrupting their lives further.
Thanks Hope, I intend to have an absolute blast this weekend with my friends, really looking forward to it!
