Hey guys. ICH I think you are spot on with your 3 points. I think I should not respond to her using my son as an attention getter. I will work on that.
AS I think I need to be more specific because I am definitely not fully detached yet. The idea I meant to say was that during the past week while separated and when not having much interaction with my W I felt very detached. I almost never thought about her or even felt all that sad.
Different story when I see her or when she started the R talk last weekend. I definitely still had emotions involved and while far less strong than around my BD, they are still there. That’s something I need to work on more.
For example last night I had a very late night hockey game. The first really late night one since my W left. I felt much sadder than I had lately coming home to an empty bedroom. But I woke up this morning and was happy and enjoyed the day. So I am still having ups and downs but they are far less intense ups and downs compared to 3 months ago.
Making progress toward detachment but am not fully there yet. Thanks
