Moving on to the Brightside Part 27

[Dawn70]

It's like I told people after I decided that I was done with my own marriage. You never know you're living under a cloud until you walk in the sunshine. Call it Stockholm Syndrome if you like perhaps

It doesn't take too much effort to remember good times with my ex but yes - for me as well it was pretty much all about her and her wants as well. At least that's my perception 3 years out.

I wonder if that is common for the LBS. When I read J9's post, I thought, yeah, I get it. I have few good memories of my XH. Sure, if I REALLY put some effort into it, I can think some happy times, but really, what stands out most is how it was all about his wants and needs and I didn't even realize it when I was living it. I didn't realize it because I am a giver. I have seen that quote before that says something about givers have to learn to set boundaries because takers never have any. So, so true! Even in BD and D, my XH, who was always the focus of anything going on, tried to blame a lot of crap on me that just wasn't the case.

Interesting to hear it from a man's perspective, from you and J9 both, but it really does make me wonder if this is just how it is for the LBS, regardless of gender.