It makes a change from H who would rather choke then pay me a compliment and before he left said I was too skinny, too muscly and that I should really do something about the stretch marks (I've had two kids you [censored]hole).
Seriously, what a tool. Someone that doesn't have some scars and stretch marks by 40 is living a sheltered life. In the same way a perfect diamond needs a flaw for us to appreciate it's perfection, a few marks on a woman's body just highlights her beauty in my opinion.
Originally Posted by FlySolo
Yes, apparently it's a thing. Now, I'm far from a prude, and I am definitely not one to judge what consenting adults choose to do behind closed doors, but I probably wouldn't lead with telling someone that's what I want to do on a first date, or any date in fact. Either the standards for what is acceptable to say on a first date has changed A LOT or I am a straight up weirdo magnet.
My girlfriend is in her late 20's and I dated a few other women spanning all ages before her and it is definitely more of a "thing" with the younger crowd. But no no noooooo that is so inappropriate to discuss on a first date, LOL! WOW! I can't really imagine anything more creepy, did he drive there in a white windowless van?
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The time spent alone taught me that my H was wrong - I am worth a hell of a lot more than he made me think I was worth. Yes, I failed our M in so many ways, but so did he. And I wasn't the one that bailed.
Yes, well said and that is exactly right. That's one of the reasons you see me telling people not to jump into dating too soon, first you have to find peace and happiness alone. My girlfriend likes to watch RuPaul's Drag Race and at the end of it he always says "If you don't love yourself then how are you going to love somebody else, can I get an amen!" Very true statement. I think a lot of people that get BD'd don't love themselves as a result of it (or maybe even before) and even think they are unlovable. They are so desperate to fill that "hole" in themselves that they jump into dating too soon.
I'm not saying you're not ready, it sounds like you are! Good luck, hopefully someone will check all the boxes on your "want list"
