I still question whether my situation is different than a lot of people here. My wife and I get along very well together. We cook dinner with each other every night, and we talk a lot. But the BD did drop, and I don't see the R improving. So, I know that things aren't right. I bet all of us here drive ourselves crazy trying to convince ourselves that our situation is different. No matter what, I need to find happiness for myself. I will keep taking steps every day to do this. What a slog!
My sitch was just like that. Except for the cooking every night. Regardless, it doesn't matter what your sitch is like. GAL, detaching (please Google self-differentiation in marriage as this is the healthy way to be in an R even if it is a good R, as codependency is always a bad thing), and 180ing on bad behavior.
My sitch didn't improve until I started doing that well and consistent.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
