Alison - It wasn't the act that I objected to, it was the sitting across from me in a nice bar and saying that that was what he'd like to do. Things happen in the heat of the moment, but shouldn't be the asked about in a nice bar with someone you've just met.
I have not told my girls about the dating. I plan them around my nights without the girls and only ever in London. I don't want to run into anyone locally. I am sure my H would react, but he can't very well say anything about it to me. He left. He has dated (and could still be dating for all I know). He has said he is not coming back. All his actions tell me that I do not need to seek his permission, nor should I feel guilty for anything I do. But yet, he would find a way to punish me, and my dating would be substantial punishment. He knows me well enough to know that if I am dating, I am sleeping with other people. That alone would either be the thing that snaps him out of his madness, or the thing that triggers him to start proceedings.
He is going to Vegas today with two of his friends. I am not seeing him for a week. I have not asked what he will do whilst he is there and it is very unlikely he will contact me - though he will call the girls. I am actually relatively relaxed about this.
