Re arse-licking, and without wanting to get into TMI - but mine and my H's intimate life, other than the period I had PND, has not been lacking. I think when everything else went kaput, it was the single place that we were able to give to each other and take from each other without fear and resentment and defensiveness. It wasn't perfect, and eventually the sadness in the marriage showed up in the bedroom too, but for a long time we were very free with each other. I felt safe with him and I think he felt safe enough to be both bold and vulnerable with me. And STILL I think I'd have to have a glass of wine or two (and I don't drink!) to work up the courage to ask for some arse-licking.
Date four sounds both exactly my type, and like he needs to grow up a bit.
Do you daughters know you are dating? Does your H? Is that something you worry about? I am imagining you are keeping this aspect of your GAL to the times when your daughters are with your H, and that's probably wisest: you're allowed a private life. Do you think your H would react to this in any way if he knew, or is that just not on your radar at all?
