My fear is to be replace. I see OW as a competition. A woman who wants my life. That is what OW1 wanted. A good family man, a good husband and father. She told my kids she loved them after spending 2 days with them. She even cut my youngest hair. I was furious. Unfortunately, by seducing ex-h and destroying his family, she got an empty shell of a man and realised he was not who she thought and dumped him. For obvious reasons, i did not see my ex-h as this wonderful husband and father anymore either. Never have since. All OWs are people i do NOT want to hear about They are not part of my life. I don' t want to have anything to do with any of them.
When i get rapped up with the past, i use a phrase he used on me: " There is more to life then this."
My fear is unjustable. I am obviously replaceable as a wife but i will never be a replaceable mom. I do feel not good enough sometimes. I do think maybe the kids would have done more and had more things if they were with them. Then i hear a comment ex-h said or something he did and i it is enough for me to know thiings are right just as they are. I do my best. I pray for help and guidance. I am bless with 4 amazing children and i love my life as it is.
Tad, i have followed you for years and i agree with your co-worker. You are an awesome guy!
In reference to loving someone else has you loved your wife... Is it possible to love again. Yes. Is it easy... No Can it be strong and deep. Absolutely For me, It is when i try to open my family life to a man that i back off. It feels wrong to me still. Maybe because i still have children at home? For you, i beleive you could. You just have to open your heart and let someone in. If you chose to.
