So it’s been some serious DBing on my part...the result...borderline total silence from H. Seems pissed off at my distance, is that normal?? Maybe just an indication of how much effort I was having to put in just to keep anything going
Yes quite normal. In the time after BD there is literally nothing you can do right. He'll find a way to hate you if you change, and find a way to hate you if you stay the same. This is why we say change for YOU, because it will initially have no positive impact on him. Eventually when he sees you really have changed and sees you GALing and being happy then he'll start to wonder what he's missing. But it is going to take a long time to get there.
