Thanks A...I feel very grounded with it and very much in control of my emotions, centered. Our lives, patterns, lifestyles, etc. are so similar it has made things really easy. She is so sweet, loving, caring and brings out the best in me. She would also be an excellent role model for my girls. That said I am nervous, excited but I am a very lucky man.
It is a big change after being with someone like my XW for so many years who was a taker and very critical/controlling. In all fairness though this is not a 17 year relationship either and it should be this way early on. She is the polar opposite of my XW and while that is really awesome I have struggled with it as well. I read something that essentially said that you know when you are over your X when you are open to dating or being with someone that doesn't look/act like them or the same pattern will repeat. I am trying to break the cycle.
Obviously who knows what will happen in the future however I do see her in it. We still have not met each others kids yet, coordinating meeting some friends but no other discussions at this point. We are still getting to know each other as well in many ways although she has been who she said she was all along and she still has not waivered. It does feel like both of our guards are continuing to come down. It's not easy for either one of us to feel vulnerable and really let our emotions go there. I also think I am starting to see her for who she is really is.
That said I am just taking one day at a time. I will see her again tomorrow night and then we have the whole weekend to spend with each other.
