I’m glad this is happening. It’s good for this group to discuss this at length. It will help us all in the end!

There is no concern about hijacking my thread for it either.

Forgot to mention that W also texted me that “I really liked the listening conversation” and “let’s sit down in chairs next time instead of standing in the driveway”. I agreed with both statements. Progress is nice to see. Small steps.

She asked for a code word that either of us can have to say when we are feeling too emotional to hear each other’s words and end the conversation without reprisal or hard feelings. I think this is acceptable so long as the road goes both ways and the conversation can resume at a later time and date. Thoughts?


Me40; W38; S12; D9
BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18
D Final 7/2020
Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.