Ok LH I kind of figured those last 3 statements by his W I saw him as emotionally engaging into drama by his statements, even though he was intentionally pushing her away because of her bad behavior, and not being completely logistical, and emotionally detached, or stoic as some would say. So let negative interactions be ignored, go unanswered as a response, unless they cross a personal boundary, which protects you, and not punishes them, which need a to be enforced. Validation statements get emotionally neutral and logical responses, and positive interactions get positive responses, but guarded, less is more, only as necessary, with as little information as possible, being scarce. Never ask why, but if more info is needed to make a logical decision. Is asking to be more specific a better response, without emotionally engaging, or asking them their business.
