You're a kind woman, Dilly. I hope he has a relaxing time too. And that he misses you. But not too relaxing. It will do him good to have an insight into what it is to run a household and take care of teenagers. Perhaps it will go some way to heal their relationship, or at the very least, prompt him into noticing that he's hurt them and it needs some action on his part to heal them. I know H is in my very very bad books at the moment, but I can say he's been making more and more effort with the kids since he left. They often mention to me how grumpy and gripey he's been when he's been with them, but he is doing his best to make time for them and he does worry about them and has been better at giving praise and showing affection than he's been in about two years. I applaud you for being able to forgive him for the ways he has hurt you and injured your marriage (and continues to do so) - a much harder thing to forgive the father who abandons his children, I think. Especially as he knows what that is like himself.
