I applaud you for that, Alison Giving up blame is hard to do, but it is a gift to yourself and gives you a lot more power over your life. I have always been quite an optimistic person, but I did spend a lot of time blaming my H for things because we were stuck in a blame cycle. He was very hard to live with for a long time, but I played a role in that for sure. And after many months of IC I find I forgive him for the most part, and I forgive myself.
'Tut-tut it looks like rain', I love it! I will remember it. It's very hard not to be infected with someone else's misery, and also hard not to take some share of responsibility for it somehow, or to try to fix it. But maybe seeing it as a black cloud which passes over and then moves on, you see how little control you have over it.
This week I am working on being kind and empathetic, I know my trip away will not be easy for H to handle. I will make sure the fridge is stocked and the house clean and tidy so that he can enjoy his time here in peace and have fun with the kids. I hope that me being away will allow him to relax here and also maybe to miss me a bit
