From 5/30/19 Hey sandi and so torn, thanks for the input. I haven’t posted much because not much has been going on honestly.
Sandi hahaha yes i can see the image you are talking about. If she disrespects me again I will keep it simple and say don’t talk to me like that and end the conversation.
So torn, Yeah absolutely man, I’ve gotten a lot of interest from quite a few girls and have been dating a few. They are kind and respectful, makes me wonder why I should deal with someone who gets randomly triggered with disrespect.
So yeah I guess update: been talking to many girls, going on dates the next few days as I have had my S the last few days. I was really worried at first about how much work I would have with my S, but I am learning that I can handle it without difficulty. Having a lot of fun with him.
On days I don’t have my S I’m still going nuts with GAL and have made quite a few new friends. Don’t really think about my W at all. I now live with my best friend and we have had a blast living together so far. When my S is not here it totally feels like an awesome bachelor pad lol.
The interactions with my W have been mostly about child care. She still seems to be planning family stuff together in the future even after our last R talk where I told her I was unsure if I wanted to do family things together. If she straight up asks I will probably say no. She hasn’t been disrespectful at all since that last R talk. She did a little playful flirting with me today. I may have reciprocated but I really wasn’t thinking about it.
The separation has made it way easier for me to detach and while I was hoping for R a few weeks ago, I am now leaning against it unless I see some very big self reflection and changes in my W. I’ll try to post again soon but to be honest there hasn’t been all that much to tell! Thanks everyone!
from 6/03/19 Hey hey, been a few days so just updating.
The past few days there has been basically no contact with W. I’m having a pretty good time! Dating and doing a lot with friends. I realized that I would turn down a lot of invitations and stuff because I knew W didn’t like me out and about. Been crazy busy with GAL. If I don’t have my son I’m basically never home now, and I’m really focking enjoying it.
Been trying to be like Jim Carey in Yes Man. It’s led to a lot more experiences and me doing a lot more things I would normally avoid. It feels fockin incredible!
A few nights ago my W was texting our mutual friend who is a girl about what I was up to and if I was seeing anyone. Mutual friend said she didn’t know but apparently my W lost it and started accusing her friend of lying about not knowing my business. Mutual friend was kind of venting to me and was really bothered by my Ws interaction with her.
So last night I was out drinking and GAL with friends. It is Ws weekend with our son. At like 1130pm she texts me and wants to talk about scheduling. I was pretty brief in my responses. The short of it was that W asked me to take Son for two weekends in a row. She wrote a huge paragraph about it. I asked her “why?”. She replied that it was a busy week and didn’t give a concrete reason that she couldn’t have our son. I replied simply “no sorry.”
She then acted as if it was no big deal and spoke that she would figure it out. I didn’t respond and then she went nuts into an R talk. She wrote a lot of things and she was very emotional saying: “I drove by the house and your car was gone. I am crying as I write this”. I basically said that this was what she wanted.
She got very crazy and was texting a lot. I validated her complaints but reinforced that I didn’t think it was okay for her to just up and leave and tear up our family in the process. At one point she got super angry and was spouting [censored] at me. “I hate you blah blah”. I replied that if you hate me stop fckin texting me and leave me alone.
She then got very disrespectful and started spouting that I was probably fckin some whore and blah blah blah. I replied that “if you are going to accuse me of sleeping with whores I’m done talking to you.”
She replied but I enforced boundary by not talking to her anymore. This morning she texts me pictures of our son. She apologized and said can you please forgive me for being rude last night. I didn’t reply. Kind of over her BS. I basically said last night that if she had no intention or working on our relationship then I didn’t want her contacting me. Maybe this wasn’t the right move but idk that’s how I feel. I don’t really want to talk to her or deal with her if we aren’t together.
More later thanks.
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