There's work for both of you to do before there can be a R. And you are doing your work, and he isn't doing his and wondering why an R still doesn't feel possible for him. I think my H is in the same position and I want to shake him sometimes. I have exhausted every single possible technique - most of them crazy unhealthy - to make him realise this. But it isn't possible. I think there's a laws of physics to this. And LRT is where I am at - except I am considering it not a technique but as a way of ending the relationship. I don't want to be with someone, or wait for someone, as unhealthy as H. It hurts and it stinks. As far as I understand it, LRT involves acting as if you are single and getting on with your life. It means becoming single in your mind and heart. It's a process. Are there small practical steps you can take over the next few days to get you there?
